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Tonya Ingram is a poet, Cincinnati native, Bronx-bred introvert, mental health advocate, kidney transplant hopeful, Lupus legend, cat auntie, and lover of Tom Hardy and The Office. Tonya currently resides in Los Angeles, CA.

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  1. Thank you so much for sharing. Those of us dealing with chronic health conditions can relate. May the Creator of your understanding continue to give you strength, courage, peace, joy, and the wherewithal to continue to keep the faith as you journey this life.

  2. Missing your mom while she is still alive opened up a door for me. I felt this poem was very deep. I am praying for your healing.

  3. Writing gives us a right to a rite of passage. Enduring to persevere until we overcome.

    Speak our truth to ourselves in the pages as we journal the journey with a friend in a pen.

  4. I love this. Write through it. I suffer with chronic pain and fatigue from Fibromyalgia and numbers are on border lupus and if gets me down sometimes and I journal. I need to do it more often to write through it instead of wallowing in it. Thank you

  5. So powerful! Thank you for reminding all of us to find solace in our process, and to write through it!

  6. This poem was so necessary; so now; so healing and so intergenerational. I am in my 80 year old body and have scars where diseased parts were taken. I remember thinking I wanted to go to my grave with all my body parts. The maker had other thoughts. Thank you for making me feel in this time of intersecting dystopias.

  7. Good morning 🙏
    To God be the Glory for you and your faith, your strength 💪 and the will to live and continue to move Forward, even though your challenges 🙏
    Beautiful 😍 poem and sincere words of fear, pain 💔 disappointment.
    May God Continue to bless and keep you 🙏

  8. Thank you “Good Morning.” Beautiful words to start my beautiful day. I woke up feeling sorry for myself – as usual. Then, I ingested your words – of strength, of comfort, of peace. Thank you for loving yourself enough to write it out and loving me enough to share. I am now moving into my next space….closer to the next space to the side of joy.

  9. This was beautiful to read while i am recuperating from a surgery that i had not seen coming. I also write thru everything. Its a release for me, where I can ask the questions freely and only my mind can answer.

  10. This was a beautiful reminder to “write through it”. There’s such freedom is putting pen to pain to help with the pain. Thank you for this.

  11. This poem is fantastic. Thank you for sharing. Your road to healing is already in motion. The use of two of the most powerful words in the universe is confirmed in your poem, “I Am.” I love how you embraced your illnesses-yet have not allowed them to get the best of you.

  12. This poem spoke to deeply to my spirit. Just know you are not alone. There’s so many others just like us. Continue your fight and your path because my sister. You are inspirational to those you don’t know or see. Keep faith in all things and Sun shine comes in the morning. Thank you so much!

  13. Thank you for the interesting poem. There have been times in my life when I “wrote through it”, I definitely wrote through my bad marriage and wrote myself out of it. I even published my poetry memoirs. I tend to write only through the bad times yet never through the good. I wrote a eulogizing poem when my mother passed. This made me stop and think….I don not know if I will write but I do know that I will survive.

  14. Damn giiirrrlll…that was so inspirational. I see you and I hear you. I am you…and you are loved!!! Stay strong!!!

  15. Thank you for expressing my feelings so eloquently. I, too, have an autoimmune disease that makes me want out of my body most days. So I celebrate the days of no pain with dancing or a walk, which only lasts for a moment. But in those moments I find hope.I pray that you will have more good days than bad, and that those memories will carry you through. Stay strong!

  16. I love the way You Write Through It and encourage others to do the same. I wrote Through it too with losing my son. Writing is your gift. Keep writing in your waiting for your healing…

  17. Write through it and so you did! THANK YOU! Your courage is beautiful and your encouragement is appreciated! Praying for your continued healing and strength! Now I’m going to go and write through it too!

  18. Thank you for your poem and sharing! A few years ago I was diagnosed with stage 4 kidney disease. I think God and my Dr it has not progressed. I am fighting it every single day!!

  19. Thank you for sharing. I was diagnosed with Lupus in 1985. It has been a journey, sometimes extremely difficult and limiting. By the grace of God, I survived brain cancer and other ailments. You too will survive! I am going through a lot now, not medical though. Thank you for the encouragement to write through it. May God, our healer, attend to you today.

  20. I am so appreciative of your insight into me. Pain is invasive as it inserts itself into every aspect of life. So many do not understand what you go through on a daily basis just to walk, turn, lay down to sleep or move your body from one space to the next. Thank you for verbalizing these feelings.

  21. Thank you. A family member was recently diagnosed with Lupus. I can see the changes in her body, but I now understand the changes in her emotions. I will be more patient and loving and when I think I’ve run out of energy I’ll ask God to provide me enough to share with her.

  22. Thank you for the passion for survival. I can see your every change. My daughter has endured this unrelenting illness and all of its related ailments. But to God be the glory she like you have tapped into the source of your healing and are willing share answer, the faithful love of God. Bless your heart ❤️ 🙏🏾🙏🏾🌹

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