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Kennesha Buycks is the creator of Restoration House, a home and lifestyle brand focusing on creating soulful spaces that speak to the restorative aspects of home. A Southern transplant to the PNW, she is passionate about connection and encouraging others to live life with unique passion and purpose.

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  1. Thank you so much for sharing . I am not a perfectionist , far from it; but I would say I have a son and a sister who are. This article reminded me of the story of Martha and Mary in the Bible . Martha was so busy trying to make things ‘perfect ‘ , so to speak , that she forgot to put God first . Put God first and everything else will fall into place.

  2. Each experience leading you to your moment of triumph makes it worth the struggle.

    The most precious jewels are formed through heat and pressure.

    You Are A Jewel.
    Take His Grace & Wear The Crown.

  3. I have not found ways to break cycles in my life or ways of thinking in my life, but your passage that I just read has really helped me to start this journey.

  4. I am so glad that I read this today. It blessed me! I tend to struggle with perfectionism in certain areas of my life and knowing there are others working this out helps me realize I’m not alone. You reminded me to let go of trying to be perfect and let God in His perfection do what is good, and what is needed.

  5. I get all of that. Carrying the weight of the world is a big burden. A load you can’t bear all alone.
    I was once to that point, but realized that it’s not worth it. I finally came to the conclusion, just do
    the best you can. It will work out. I can do all things thru Christ which gives me strength. Just do your best.

    • Yes! We truly can’t do any of this alone! Thank God for God and for friends and gamily He gifts to us to help get us through! Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts!

  6. Beautifully written, I too found myself struggling feeling like I was carrying the world on my shoulders. My mom is 90 yrs old and I take care of her, my brother had a severe stroke and I have two twin mentally challenged sisters that I take care of. There is always so much to do but I can do all things through God who strengthens me! God Bless!

    • Kennesha, I really enjoyed this piece that brought peace. Thank you for sharing your heart while simultaneously touching mine.
      My, how this resonated with me.
      I, too, have struggled with and am overcoming the perfect lie of perfectionism.
      How?
      Simply . . . God’s grace.

      You asked, “What are some ways you’ve found to break old cycles and ways of thinking in your life?”

      A few ways I’ve accomplished this is by keeping it real with myself and God. I cry out to Him for help in prayer, seek Godly counsel, and bathe in the water of God’s Word. It is here that helps me “not to be conformed to this world, but to be transformed by the renewing of my mind . . .”(Romans 12:2)

      Thank you for letting me know “I’m not alone, that I must stay focused, and to remember I am a part, not the whole.” Thank you for inviting me, through your gift of writing, to be a part of something greater than myself —a community that no longer chooses to believe the perfect lie.
      Kudos, Kennesha!👏🏽

    • Thanks so much for reading and sharing. You are right, we are not meant or called to carry it all. I pray you are able to find more grace, truth, space and peace in this season! Thanks again!

  7. This resonated with me — not because I am a perfectionist, but because I am “perfectionistic.!” I WANT everything to be perfect, but am your sister under the skin of getting stuck and scared then procrastinating so that I get stuck-er and and stuck-er until the cement sets and I am immobilized. Unfortunately, I am of the generation that was taught that it was a “sin” to ask others to do for us what we could do for ourselves, and that “Heaven helps those who help themselves.” Alas, “too soon old, too late wise.” I am glad that you have learned this Truth much earlier than I. I have always known that I am a child of God, but “adulting” does not require carrying all the weight all of the time. Thank you for sharing this.
    Jean B
    akajeanlb@gmail.com

  8. As a recovering perfectionist, I loved this article. I often have to remind myself to just start and that “it is enough”. Loved the three truths at the end. Thank you for writing this.

  9. Love this so much! Your book constantly rings in my head when I look around and things aren’t perfect. The struggle is very real. I appreciate your writings

  10. Loved it. I too can be a perfectionist and too often have too much on my plate. I actually love this scripture as it is one of my favorites. On the real when we low our plates to get too full we really are heeding the voice of God to guide and direct us. I will continue to retain this beautiful word of God as a daily reminder to slow down, manage my time better, and remember he is in control of everything. Thanks for the reminder.

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