About the Author

Ashley O’Neil, CRNP, is a writer who uses her words to heal from being a NICU/preemie mama, a widow, and a loss mom. During her healing journey, she discovered her purpose: to empower NICU families by providing hope, encouragement, and resources.

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    • I come from a long time of women who always put others’ needs before their own. It has taken me awhile (and I am still actively learning it) to learn that caring for myself is not selfish and is very much needed. Thank you for reading.

  1. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Praying for the continual healing of your mind, body and spirit.

  2. Very inspiring and uplifting. Many couldn’t have survived this. Continue to slay your demons Ashley and walk in light.

  3. That was so beautifully written. I am so glad that I had the opportunity to read this piece. I know it was about your journey, however it speaks to others as well.

  4. Praise God for your healing and for you to continuously sharing your life’s journey. You are living an abundant life from the spirit; continue to walk and live by the spirit

  5. Wow just wow! I am so excited for you and these next chapters and challenges you will embark to strengthen your self! God chose you! Your voice and strength is an inspiration to mothers, women, and parents and future parents! He gives the toughest battles to his STRONGEST WARRIORS! Love you girl! You courage is encouraging me!

  6. may has not been a good month for me either, a lot of death in my family in may.. i left my husband in may.. a lot of times i have not looked forward to this month.. but i have got over it as the years pass..

    • Hi Ms. Bonnie! I believe that time, healing and reflection makes it so that we can make it through those hard months. Praying for your healing, strength and peace on your own healing journey.

  7. That was a beautiful description of how you and your son were embraced and loved on by family. A lot of love and healing. Thank you for sharing your story and how you have fought through the tough times to find your joy! Reading what you wrote was inspirational and hopeful to the personal healing journey I am on as well. I pray that the Lord continues to strengthen you through the love and compassion that you display.

    • Hey Alana! Thank you so much for taking the time to read my article. I pray you well on your own healing journey. Blessings!

  8. “I have survived battles that would have brought others to their knees. And yet, here I still stand, filled with hope and wonder and excitement for the future.”

    Ashley I felt that. This was great. I’m so excited to see what you and baby boy’s future holds. Keep pushing you are amazing.

  9. As a fellow Ashley (hey girl, hey!) who happens to be born in the month of May, I love this. I understand this myself, the need to reimagine & find personal joy after so much loss; especially in a particular month or season. My month is December. For whatever reason, several family members have used this month as the best time to transition into their next life. My sister included, who passed 2 days after Christmas a few years ago. And she knew that Christmas is my favorite season (besides my birthday😁). I believe she did it so I’d never forget her.
    May is full of bright colors and blooming flowers. The month lends itself to beginning anew in gentle, warm celebration.
    Cheers to your month of Ashley!🥂

    • Hey Ashley! Hey Girl! Thank you so much for your kind words. I am so sorry about your family transitioning. I pray that you are able to find peace and strength and healing during the month of December.

  10. Beautiful story of your life, so much encouragement comes from it. I am encouraged even the more from your story. Thank you sis for sharing. My heart is full hearing the display of God’s love and care for us. God will continue to use you in imaginable ways. ❤️

  11. Proud of you sis! Rediscovering life is hard (especially when carrying such deep grief), but it’s a brave and worthwhile journey. You are not alone!

  12. Thank you for sharing your story. It gives hope to other’s that have suffered losses. God Bless you!

  13. This….THIS; is what the it means to bear one’s Soul and exercise Vulnerability, to the very core of our Human Experience. Thank you for sharing your story of loss, courage, redemption, and renewal with us, and I feel I’m a better Man for having read this 💯.

  14. What an inspiring article. You have illustrated what it takes to find resilience in spite of so much trauma. Best wishes for all your efforts for the young people and their parents who experience the NICU.

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