There’s something about the last quarter of the year that always pushes my attention toward reflection. I used to be the girl who was so focused on what she wanted to accomplish that I’d never take the time to assess my growth and progress along the way. (Not to mention I’d fail to recognize how far I’d come!) So, like clockwork, Q4 2023 has me thinking about a lot of things…
Honestly, 2023 was a tough year. Not only did I not reach most of the goals I set for myself and my business, but a part of me doesn’t even care.
I guess grief will do that to a person. I started this year with the highest of hopes—for business, for my health, and for my finances. I was just coming off a good revenue year in my business in 2022, so I was positioned to scale. I took on some extra expenses to help me grow the business. Then, the revenue dropped. I had bitten off more than I could chew. By April, I was reconsidering a lot of things. I knew there were lessons to be learned, it was just incredibly uncomfortable.
Then, at the end of April, my mom’s health took a turn for the worse. She ended up in the hospital; most of the month of May was consumed with making sure she was okay. In hindsight, what a blessing my business was slow. The amount of work I was used to was drastically reduced, and therefore my focus didn’t need to be on the business. I had to keep reminding myself that God’s plan doesn’t always align with our own.
Between June and July, things picked up a little, but nothing close to what I had intended, nor what I was used to. It was not great in the moment, but it reaffirmed to me that my focus needed to be on my mom. We ended up back in the hospital a few more times before she started home hospice, and by the beginning of August she was gone. Low and behold, business quickly picked up again. The distraction was very much welcomed, but now I’m left with no mom and goals that won’t be reached.
And you know what? It’s okay.
In 2023, I’ve learned so much about my faith, my resiliency, and my ability to handle hard things. I’ve learned that goals are great for giving you something to work towards, but they’re not an indication of how successful or happy you are as a person. I’ve learned that time is precious, and, for each of us, that time is limited. I’ve also learned that God’s will is what prevails. God’s plan is what matters. We don’t have to understand it, but we do have to put our trust and faith in Him.
So now, as we’re finishing out the last few months of 2023, I’m getting intentional with my reflection. I’m not only focusing on what did and didn’t work with my goals. I’m also focusing on how I’ve grown as a person, where I still need to grow, and how I can be stronger in my Faith.
I’m letting go of needing to control future outcomes. I’m moving in the direction I believe God wants me to go, and I have the utmost faith that my course will change direction if needed. Every day is an opportunity for me to be a better person, businessowner, partner, and friend. While the Virgo/Type A personality in me won’t let me just stop setting goals, I’m no longer focused on actually achieving them—but making sure I’m becoming the person I need to be to live the best life possible.
How are you getting intentional with your reflections of 2023? I’d love to hear what you’ve learned about yourself and what you plan to implement moving into next year.Leave a Comment