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LaWanna R. Wilson is a radio personality and Value Development Coach residing in Nashville, Tennessee. She is the “pep-talk” girlfriend and can be found doing so at her virtual singles conference and on the podcast Single But Not Solo.

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  1. Bravo! Well-written, thoughtful article. I have never been married and have experienced almost every stage of singleness, finally arriving in a similar space as yourself. It took a while. We need this kind of encouragement. Thank you.

  2. My dear Sis. Lawanna R. Wilson, you preached the roof – and the bells, off the church! Not only did I hear your message, I felt your message down deep in my soul, for it is a journey I too, have lived and continue to live: never married and now in my seventh decade. But I’m doing good.

  3. Been single, never married, for my whole life and actually, most of my closest female friends have been too. All of us do enjoy the companionship of a gentleman, a couple of the girls did marry later in life. However, we ALL love our own company, taking respites to be alone and renew w/o the partner.

  4. I absolutely love this lady because she is accepting the development of self worth and self love as a gift from God which allows that wholeness. I am also one of her married friends and I know her wisdom in many areas (not just singleness) should be taken as a blessing by all of us whether single or married! This is good and should be used as a tool in the toolbox. Thank you for writing and sharing this.

  5. “Our singleness is considered the preferred status.” You recognize the very important influence we have in our singleness. Thank you for expressing such truth. The prize isn’t the ring, it’s the ability to be in a meaningful and fulfilling relationship that honors God, self and each other. Either way, I’m over here doing just fine!

    • “Doing just fine” is key Dana. I pray more single people realize what you have. Married or not, either way we need to reconcile that we will be just fine & will thrive. Thank you!

  6. Preach, Sis!! And I say, “Amen!!” I as well am unmarried and thriving!! I hate when those who do get married act as though they were never single and pity my singleness. I hope this is read by those who are married so they can check themselves.

  7. Agree 100% especially the last graph and this: “Then, when you meet Mr. or Miss, you’ll be well rounded, fulfilled in your purpose, and not looking for them to complete you. You’ll have built a great life to invite someone else to share with you.” And even if you don’t you can still have a joyful and fulfilled life.

    • Absolutely Marsha. We’ve got to live and live well as Singles. If and when someone comes along, they’ll find us healthy, whole and ready to share our life. Either way, it’s a win. Thank you.

  8. Two snaps and a twirl!! You said it!! I completely agree with you! Get ready for your husband. T.D.Jakes has a book entitled “The Lady, Her Lover and Her Lord!” I read it and it helped me greatly! It’s even in large print! I love the title and I truly respect singleness!!

  9. Well said, very encouraging! “…looked around and took inventory of how blessed I was and how much I was thriving.”

  10. Before reading this article, I was seriously considering unsubscribing. I decided to give it a quick read, and I was pleasantly surprised. I certainly did not think it would be written to include biblical principles. I love the article so much that I will share it with those who listen to my upcoming YouTube channel, Beloved Unbeliever, which will specifically focus on single women, women who are in relationships with an unsaved man or women who are married to unsaved men.

    • Wow Alicia! That really touched my heart. I’m so glad my article was a blessing and that you will share this encouragement with others who need it. That’s truly what it’s all about. We are blessed to be a blessing. Thank you!

  11. LaWanna, I loved everything about this article! You have put words to what singles are experiencing and feeling. And you are absolutely right yes we are single but we must still carry on and enjoy all the things that we wish to do. Thank you for the encouragement and inspiration.

    • Amen Jamie! It can be challenging to keep a positive perspective. Many of us want companionship, absolutely nothing wrong with that. We just can’t put life on hold waiting for it to happen and we can’t make it the thing we can’t live without. We have to find that balance. I’m glad my article encouraged you Sis!

  12. I didn’t get married until I was 42. I enjoyed the single life and I enjoy marriage now. I encourage my daughters to enjoy single life – explore careers, travel, date, save money all of what you said. We need to stop thinking something is wrong when a woman is not married. It is a choice not a destination.

    • Love this Amy! It’s true. Personally I believe if someone desires marriage one of the best ways to meet someone is by getting out and about, living life, trying new things.

    • Sis! It really isn’t! Ask some of your married friends and if they’re honest they will tell you it can feel a little like a 3 star hotel sometimes, lol. It’s all about perspective, right Chamel whether single or married. Thank you.

  13. Yesss! Loved it all. It spoke volumes to me as a single 33 year old woman who loves God and in pursuit to live my life to the fullest, even before my Mr. Comes. Well spoken.

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