About the Author

Tonya Ingram is a poet, Cincinnati native, Bronx-bred introvert, mental health advocate, kidney transplant hopeful, Lupus legend, cat auntie, and lover of Tom Hardy and The Office. Tonya currently resides in Los Angeles, CA.

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  1. This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing. Prayers for all the women who have their share of “onions”.

  2. I enjoyed reading the literature that provided. I shared with my family and friends, So many time we feel undeserved , or, not worthy of something or someone. Thank you for pouring into my life.

  3. WOW just no other words! The tears that are welling up in my eyes as I sit at my desk feels freeing to know that I was not alone then and I am not alone now. Thank you for sharing, there is power and healing in sharing these stories that connect us.

  4. Praying for your healing sis! With time, the pain begins to dull. You can forgive but you can’t forget. I’m 35 and in the past 8 years, I have cried, struggled, and come to accept the things I can control and those that I cannot. I too have a troubled family relationship. I don’t feel accepted and it hurts. With that being said, I have formed my own family. It’s filled with love and people that treat me the way I deserve to be treated. Some days I think about what life was before and wonder what I did wrong. Most days, I count my blessings and thank God I didn’t give into thoughts of worthlessness. Thank you for sharing your story.

  5. We can relate to you on the essence of your story. I to had a troubling life with my mother but we did resolve it before her death I am glad to say. Hopefully so will you.

  6. Whew! I read this and it was beautifully transparent. Scrolling to the bottom and seeing the author was a wonderful poet who probably didn’t get to see this published hit me hard. Wow

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