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Dr. Alisha Reed is a licensed pharmacist and a widow mom who believes that self-care is non-negotiable. She is the creator of the lifestyle brand FLY with Alisha Reed, moderates a widow support group, and hosts The Fly Widow Podcast.

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  1. Your story is uplifting and so on time for me.
    As I lie here in the early morning hours thinking about the grimm health prognosis given to my husband of 27 years, my thoughts have been scattered and non-stop.
    As caregiver, the past year has taught me alot, not only about the functions of the body, but also about my physical strength and capabilities.
    I only pray that my emotional strength will be just as strong as my physical strength has been going forward.
    Again, thank you for your advice.

  2. I lost the love of my life … we met at 16 and 17 and was best friends for a very long time. I moved to his city at 22 and we had our ups n downs and and eventually got it right ! He passed at 57. I wonder if I will experience that love again.

  3. Thank you for sharing your story. I too lost my husband unexpectedly – 2020. He was the love ❤️ of my life, my best friend. We shared many great years together- married 2004. As a widow it has taught me self love, and lots of other lessons on this journey. I have learned to embrace my alone time and be okay with just me and my 2 sweet pups. I am Blessed to have loved. May you find love again!

  4. This is a beautiful story and self expression. I love the fact that you say “some people think buying gifts/things or material things means “I Love You.” That’s what I always say “I am not a material girl, so it doesn’t matter how many things/gifts you buy me that doesn’t mean you love me, truly.”

    For me it’s the little things that matter!!!

    I love your story, thanks for sharing

  5. What a fitting message.
    I was married for almost 30 years and have been a widow for 11 years. It’s all about courage to get back out there. It is also an awesome feeling when you learn new things about yourself. Stay Encouraged. I’m not looking for Love but it is so special when you see it demonstrated!!

  6. I too lost my husband suddenly just 2 years after our marriage (August 2015-October 2017). I waited 1 year before seeking a love interest. I understood the importance of self-care, self-reflection, the grieving process and healing.

    It has been challenging and exciting to mix and mingle, meeting liked minded men pursuing love thru dating Apps or mutual friends.

    Love is a word of action… acknowledging (knowing) what you want, desire and need is vital in getting and receiving the love you are seeking.
    Keep an open mind, enjoy the journey and know you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your King! Therefore… don’t settle and never give up! Life is so much more enjoyable and fulfilling when you have a loving supportive partner!
    It took 5 years of dribbling and dabbing with prospective mates before I met my Match (Match.com)!

    Trust me “LOVE” is out there for you… Keep your heart open and Believe!


  7. Thank- you.
    This article truly Blessed.
    I am in a healing process in my life and still recovering from a very stressful; horrific divorce, job transitions and learning to how to better take of myself in this stage of my life.
    I want to be a better place within myself to allow myself to love again, learning how to care and love myself in this stage in my life.

  8. Your thoughts are well received! I am also a senior widow, looking for companionship! I moved to a new state! The change will serve as a catalyst and open limitless possibilities. Of course I have to be active and receptive ❤️

  9. I have lost love through a divorce, through reconnection of a longtime friend then realizing that this love was not the forever kind, then getting engaged to a familiar love from the past to have it disintegrate because of a known illness that he wasn’t able to allow me to be a part of. I am 64 years old and have not given up on love.

  10. As dating has changed over the years. My greatest fear is being catfished AGAIN. Scammed AGAIN. I have learned to embrace my singleness. To trust what God has for me is for me. I am happy. Alone but not lonely.

  11. Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and experience. I agree. Dating does not look the same and I am not the same person I was when dating worked for me. I enjoy my own company now because there is so much peace found in what I know. The unknown scares me and honestly creates insecurities. I am confident that love will find me and until then, I am more than ok.

  12. Congratulations to you for taking the time to heal and discover you. Our God is awesome and as we seek Him, He continues to encourage and confirm us to move forward. Although this piece is mainly about your process, I am sure the other layer is helping your child process and heal. Thank you for sharing. I am three years divorced and am healing. I agree that love will come again as I welcome it.

    Blessings and Godly Love to you and yours! Our God is awesome!

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