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Charlotte Simpson, aka the Traveling Black Widow is a retired guidance counselor and special education teacher. After losing her husband of 31 years, she made solo-world-travel a central part of her retirement and has traveled all seven continents and 50 states. ​

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  1. I mothered the same way my mother did with some amendments of course. My mother and father raised 12 children on a farm pre- integration. My mother possesed a wonderful creative spirit. Taught us our history, cultural heritage and a sense of somebodyiness, proud of the skin we’re in. Made each of us think we were her favored child. I have become my mother, sometimes when I open my mouth, she speaks.

  2. Hi Charlotte,

    I would add a third category for those whose childhood was fraught with good and bad, as was mine: Take the good and leave the bad as you strive to create a more functional and healthy home for your children.

  3. This was a great article. I patented differently than my mother. My mother was extremely young when she had me so she was finding her way. She intentionally and passionately chose to keep me despite what people told her ans she never dumped me off on anyone. She didn’t keep me to maintain a relationship with my father, she kept me out of love and responsibility. However, her way of raising me was by expecting me to live the life that she didn’t live and giving me things. I raised my children completely different. I parented by example and by giving them me. I have two sons and we have amazing relationships. I see me in them as much as I see my mother in me. This a result of my children seeing how I lived and my work ethics. Just as I saw how my mother lived and her work ethics.

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