About the Author

Dr. Alisha Reed is a licensed pharmacist and a widow mom who believes that self-care is non-negotiable. She is the creator of the lifestyle brand FLY with Alisha Reed, moderates a widow support group, and hosts The Fly Widow Podcast.

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  1. I needed to here this. I’m in this transformation stage and looking forward to blooming. Now is the time.

  2. WheW! It seems like I just had an out of body experience and reading what I’ve always known about myself! I really thought myself was talking and reading to myself about myself! This is absolutely me in every aspect. Though I have some work to do, it’s good to know it can be done and not think of it as a challenge!

    I really needed this read today. Especially, after the few past challenging months personally and professionally. This read has encouraged me and lifted me – mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually because I was definitely drained in those areas.

    Thank you for being honest about you, yourself, and your situations! I hope you understand as you are encouraging us you’re encouraging yourself as well!

  3. This was amazing for me. I recently divorced my husband after 23 years and now I’m learning how to bloom. I’m learning how to set boundaries and not be afraid to say no.

  4. This message was the answer to the prayers I don’t say out loud. “Bloom or Blossom” have spoken to me every time I see them and this message confirms the areas I need to grow.

  5. This reading spoke to me on so many levels.
    I turned sixty two months ago, and all of a sudden my mind set was in a different place. I felt that my life had to be different. Expectations, self love, boundaries, peace of mind, body, and heart suddenly changed. I just want to live and speak my TRUTH! Thank you for helping me to know that my blooming is on time, faith filled, and that I Am Ready For The Growth!

  6. Thank you for this very timely article during this season of my life. I too am understanding boundaries and letting go of people, places and things that are no longer serving me in a positive manner, without regret. It hurts and it’s a process but there’s something about a status shift when you realize this is what I’m meant to do (or be).

  7. Recently, a dear friend of mine asked, How did you blossom today? That was a first time question in any of conversations I’ve had, that caused me to ponder. Now, my days of blooming are intentional with a focus on being my best self (with God’s guidance) to respect my own boundaries & hearing His voice to know when & how to speak my voice.

  8. Dr. Reed, you have so eloquently stated where I am in my journey. It took me a while to go from being a “cheerleader” for everyone else while negating my own accomplishments, needs and emotions. Thank you for confirming that it is okay to “bloom.”

  9. What this lady wrote is absolutely what I neeed to read again and a 3rd time so I can gradually make some changes in the way I work with other folks. The author is skilled in her writing ability. I believe God is using her to have me feel more free and not such a s.ave to people pleasing.k, m m

  10. Thank you for this post! I know I’m a few weeks late, but this post spoke volumes! I am dealing with a situation with my fiancé, where his family is controlling and he tries to keep the peace for both sides, but more so for them. I understand that they are close, but when there is a partner involved, we are looked upon as being jealous if something is said. I am not jealous of anyone, I just want the same level of respect that I give regarding our relationship to be reciprocated. I’m trying not to get angry, because it will all be my fault, but I’m tired of the blatant disrespect from his children, sister and nieces and nephews.

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