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Dr. Daija S. Foster, Bay Area native, Spelman College Alumna, cabernet connoisseur, unintentional comedian, lupus warrior, and clinical forensic psychologist, lets her pain fuel her purpose and extends herself love and grace while navigating this uncharted territory called life.

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    • Thank you so much for your prayers, Sharon! I agree that there are many forms or justice, healing, and peace, which truly gives me hope and the motivation to keep going 🙏🏽

  1. Thank you for sharing your story. I have not experienced that kind of grief and pain but it’s very similar. The constant struggles of every day life seems to be more than I want to bear most days. But then I think on our God, his gifts of love, mercy and grace, all troubles begin to subside. It does not stop but gives me solace and peace to continue. Your statement that grief and pain of the past do not give us emunity from ever experiencing these again, was confirmation that eventually the storm will end and the rainbow(s) will come out again. We just need to learn that lesson…whatever it is!

    • Thank you for your heartfelt comment, Cathy. One of the crazy things about grief is it has a way of making us feel connected to one another, even if the type of loss we experienced is different. I am glad that my words provided you with conformation and resonated with your spirit. Sometimes staying the course in healing through grief is tough; Lord knows I wish I could have fast forwarded through some parts along the way. But it is by His grace that we continue to be carried through, for if He brings us to it, He will bring us through it. Sending you love as you continue on in your healing journey ♥️

  2. Thanks for sharing you help me know that what and what I feel is real and okay and God and my faith keeps me going.

    • You are more than welcome, Amelia! I am so glad that my words validated how you have been feeling. I pray that God will continue to cover you with His grace and gives you the strength you need to persist forward 🙏🏽

  3. The courage and open-heartedness required to share your story is truly remarkable, Daija. I love who you are and how you are helping others heal with your story.

    • Thank you so much for always providing me with a safe space to be my most authentic self and extending me love through every phase, Lydia ❤️

  4. This is a beautiful sentiment and tribute to your brother, my cousin, and your family. I love you Cousin! I know for a fact Christian is very proud of you, and you carry his smile wherever you go. Keep shining loved one.

    • Aww thank you so much, Cuz! I do my best to keep his name alive and make him proud. I love you too ❤️

  5. I can’t imagine the thoughts that enter your mind during your ebbs and flows. I am thankful that God protects our hearts and minds. The fact that you still feel and hurt is a testament to God’s faithfulness. Just remember His strength is made perfect in our weakness. 🙏🏽

    • Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment, Evalyne! I am so grateful that God protects our hearts and minds too, as well as grateful for my ability to feel things deeply again. Although the pain can be tough, having the ability to feel and experience emotions is truly a blessing. Amen to God’s strength being perfect…I would not be here without it 🙏🏽

  6. Thank you for sharing such a personal and painful testimony of how God can will carry us through the darkness. There is no time limit on grief. I pray that as you continue on your journey of healing know there are others who are inspired by you.

  7. Thank you for formulating the grief process because it’s hard to heal a broken heart. May God continue to bless you with the gift to express with your writing skills..

  8. This piece was very similar to my situation in reference to the untimely death of my brother and the series of emotions I currently experience. This process has been and still is very tough for me but stories like this do help, especially knowing someone could sincerely relate to the emotions I feel. Thank you for sharing your journey with me and being vulnerable. It is greatly appreciated.

    Prayers for you and your family.

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