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Tonya Ingram is a poet, Cincinnati native, Bronx-bred introvert, mental health advocate, kidney transplant hopeful, Lupus legend, cat auntie, and lover of Tom Hardy and The Office. Tonya currently resides in Los Angeles, CA.

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    • Thank you for such an enlightening message. I once felt that I was not enough. My mind wanders back to the time when I was an over-giver. However, as time passed, and I was able to evaluate myself and realized that I am enough. I also learned that I don’t need to apologize for who I am.
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