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Tonya Ingram is a poet, Cincinnati native, Bronx-bred introvert, mental health advocate, kidney transplant hopeful, Lupus legend, cat auntie, and lover of Tom Hardy and The Office. Tonya currently resides in Los Angeles, CA.

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  1. OMG, this is AMAZING and right on point. THANK YOU for the feelings most women cannot express
    we need to learn to love ourselves regardless of how others view us.

  2. Oh Tonya, what a way to love; loving my aging and my grandchildren’s youth; knowing that gettin in trouble happens at every age; and knowing that my love for me makes a whole lot of room for me to love others…it makes me accepting.

  3. I love this. It speaks from the inside then outward and back. If we are honest we all have had many of these thoughts . But as much as I have had going on . I’m still wonderfully made by the most high God. I’m blessed and highly favored and I will not complain. It is well with my soul. Thank you Jesus!

    • Thank you for such an enlightening message. I once felt that I was not enough. My mind wanders back to the time when I was an over-giver. However, as time passed, and I was able to evaluate myself and realized that I am enough. I also learned that I don’t need to apologize for who I am.
      I so enjoyed reading your story. Looking forward to the next blog. Continue loving who you are and whose you are. I will.
      Thanks again.

  4. Deep bow to you my Sistah! I love the way you channeled all that is good and right about this journey we call life. That made the happy me even happier. Yes – we are more than enough!!! Keep doing you and thanks for sharing a piece of you with the world. I wish you more joy and peace and love and happiness than you can contain! “One love!”

  5. Thank you for Truth I’ve had a lot of those days basting in my light that shine bright that it often frightens the weak hearted that are to scared to part their lips to do the work that will be required. I smile and remind myself I’m worth the work required I’m here at 64 believing and knowing soon come don’t worry

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