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Raya Reaves is the Founder and Finance Coach of City Girl Savings, LLC. She teaches women how to create and stick to realistic budget plans to reach their financial goals. Raya resides in Austin, Texas, with her boyfriend and two Yorkie dogs.

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  1. Gee u r in for some real rollercoaster of emotions and changes. At 73, I think of past friendships and relationships that I could have engaged differently! Today my list of friends r very small but very special! Each meeting a different need when I became widowed! A season and reason so cliche but REAL!

    My mother at 93 is at times depressed losing her long time friends and relatives! She has become a Matriarch! I try to cheer her on to remember the precious times u shared with each loss! Unfortunately, it’s life! I want to cherish and embrace the family and friends I still have! Some don’t see the value as I do! I step to like minds! The others will learn hopefully!

    I just moved to a new state and while embracing new digs and surroundings I try to stay connected! A text, call, email, FB post etc! Best to you in life’s journey…self love helps spread the love!

  2. My favorite part – “It was as if the shapes of who we were becoming as people parted us like an ocean.”

    As an introvert, I value smaller circles of intimacy. So when that circle decreased over
    time, it felt like an unwanted surgery. And like you wrote, I had to learn that it is a natural flow of life. The people I have now are who I need now.

    Thank you for this reflective piece.

  3. Wonderful post. At 40, I completely agree that friendships change and evolve over time…and I too believe this is okay. The most beautiful thing is…even as the friendships transition – the love can remain. The evolution of the friendship doesn’t have to diminish the season that it served us well.

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